Many abuse survivors are meticulous about marrying non-abusers and about over-protecting their children from potential abusers.

Based on my professional and private research in the area of surviving abuse, I'd urge you to seek professional help and support for dealing with your childhood traumas. Again, it is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.

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Figures 1 and 2 show diagrams of how family functions and dysfunctions can be compared to an equalizer on a stereo system.

In Figure 1 this family meets the needs of communication, boundaries that are in place and maintained, economic cooperation, nurturance through relationships, raising the child/children, and offering love and support to other family members.

I know of a 62-year-old man who shared with me in private that he was the first in a long line of family members who did NOT sexually abuse other family members. His father would not acknowledge the abuse, much less talk to him about his having broken the chain.

Family Abuse is the physical, sexual, or emotional maltreatment or harm of another family member. If you were like me, and you grew up in an abusive home, please accept the fact that it was not your fault.

Ishmael and Isaac could not live together because their family broke up as a result of their mothers not getting along (their descendants still hold traditional enmity over these issues).

Royal histories are filled with sibling rivalry, incestuous relationships, and violence.That is your "no touch zone." Don't let anyone touch your chest, tummy, hips, buttocks, between the legs, or thighs. " And tell your mom or dad, teacher, or other trusted adult.There is a useful PDF file free from the u S Center for Disease Control "Preventing Child Sexual Abuse Within Youth-serving Organizations: Getting Started on Policies and Procedures on preventing sexual abuse" provided by the Centers for Disease Control. They don't want to talk about it (especially if their own wounds are unhealed), and they rarely bring it up.Sexual abuse is a particularly sinister form of abuse.The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry reported that 80,000 cases of child sexual abuse are reported each year in the U. They list possible symptoms: "Sexually abused children may also develop the following: unusual interest in or avoidance of all things of a sexual nature, sleep problems or nightmares, depression or withdrawal from friends or family, seductiveness, statements that their bodies are dirty or damaged, or fear that there is something wrong with them in the genital area, refusal to go to school, delinquency/conduct problems, secretiveness, aspects of sexual molestation in drawings, games, fantasies, unusual aggressiveness, or suicidal behavior." (Retrieved June 14, 2014 AM Acad. Psychiatry SOURCE and SOURCE ) Nowhere in this document (or any professional document based on treating survivors) does it blame the victim.If you were not protected, or worse, if you were preyed upon by someone who was supposed to protect you, then it is their fault, not yours!