Father daughter relationships and dating
However, this dad’s “rules for dating my daughter” recently went viral for reasons that are on the right track. Warren Welch, who is raising five daughters, posted a set of his own rules on Facebook and Instagram that have since been shared over 17,000 times.They are a welcome departure from the shotgun-slinging threats shrouded in toxic masculinity that are typical of these kinds of fatherly lists.
You will respect them, and if you don't, I promise they won't need my help putting you back in your place. However, Welch’s intentions are in the right place and far more feminist than most other “rules for dating my daughter” that have come before it.. But the kind of posturing by fathers of daughters I was specifically responding to had nothing to do with that 'protective instinct' and everything to do with asserting their dominance over women and reinforcing a belief that women need men to take care of them.”Like Welch said, there is nothing inherently wrong with parents being protective of their children.
Were parenting to have a job description, “protecting your kids” would be required skill number one.
But if, for whatever reasons that have everything to do with him and nothing to do with us, he wasn't able to be there for us either physically or emotionally (or a combination of both), then this is what we learned to expect.
And this is what we now find ourselves drawn to in our relationships. I hear the same story so many times, from every kind of woman from every walk of life.
He’s the one we run to when we need to feel safe and secure.
From the time we enter the world, our daddy becomes our everything.
Here are the rules by which any potential suitors must abide, should they choose to date Welch’s daughters:“You'll have to ask them what their rules are.
I'm not raising my little girls to be the kind of women who need their daddy to act like a creepy, possessive badass in order for them to be treated with respect. I’ll admit I’m not a huge fan of the accompanying Facebook caption, which reads, “I ain't raisin' no princesses.” The notion that femininity and strength must exists separately or that stereotypically feminine things are “bad” arguably isn’t the end-all solution for sexism.
Their protection, an excuse for everything from perpetuating these sexist household “rules” to actual transphobic legislation.